Written by: The Circles Team

June 13, 2023

By Tessa Noel, Certified Divorce Coach, Co-parenting Specialist and Founder of Kind Mama Divorce Coaching 

Hey there, fellow moms! If you’re reading this article, chances are you’re navigating the challenging waters of divorce. Take a deep breath and know that you’re not alone. As a certified divorce coach who has walked this path and helped countless moms reclaim their power, I’m here to share the three most important things to focus on during this transformative journey. Remember, you are  strong and capable, and by prioritizing self-care, building a support network, and letting  go of the past, you can thrive as the incredible mom you are.

First: Self-Care, Wellness, and Self-Love

In the midst of a divorce, it’s easy to forget about ourselves. But here’s the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup. Prioritizing self-care isn’t selfish; it’s an act of self-preservation. Take time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Whether it’s indulging in a bubble bath, practicing yoga, or immersing yourself in a good book, make sure to carve out space for rejuvenation.

Wellness goes beyond physical health; it encompasses your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Seek out therapy or counseling to process your emotions and gain valuable insights. Engage in activities that nourish your soul, like meditation or journaling. Explore new hobbies and rediscover passions that may have taken a backseat during your marriage. Remember, you deserve happiness and fulfillment.

Above all, cultivate self-love. Divorce can be emotionally draining, but it’s crucial to remember your worth. Treat yourself with kindness, compassion, and forgiveness. Celebrate your strengths and achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Surround yourself with positive affirmations and practice gratitude daily. By loving yourself unconditionally, you set an empowering example for your children.

Second: Master The Art of Letting Go by Embracing a New Beginning

One of the most challenging aspects of divorce is learning to let go—letting go of the past life, the identity that went with it, and the expectations you once held. It’s an opportunity to redefine who you are and embrace a new beginning. As a divorced mom, this journey of self-discovery and reinvention is crucial to your growth and happiness.

Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting or dismissing the significance of your previous life. It means releasing the grip on what was and embracing the possibilities of what can be. It’s about acknowledging the pain and the lessons learned, but also recognizing that dwelling on the past can hinder your ability to move forward and create a bright future for yourself and your children.

To let go, you must practice self-compassion and forgiveness. Understand that you did the best you could with the resources you had at the time. Allow yourself to grieve the loss, process your emotions, and make peace with the situation. Remember, healing is not linear, and it’s okay to have good and bad days.

Embracing a new beginning involves rediscovering your passions, setting new goals, and establishing a vision for your future. Take this opportunity to prioritize your dreams and aspirations. Explore new hobbies, pursue education or career opportunities, and invest in personal growth. By embracing change and letting go of the past, you create space for a brighter, more fulfilling life.

Third: Find Support and Thrive Together During Divorce

Having a supportive community is essential. Reach out and find your mama tribe. Connect with other moms who understand your journey and can provide the empathy, encouragement, and guidance you need. These incredible women will become your cheerleaders, confidants, and friends.

Start by exploring local support groups or Circles online community dedicated to divorced moms, “Mama divorce support”. Attend meet-ups, workshops, or classes that align with your interests. Engage in meaningful conversations, share your experiences, and lend a listening ear to others. Surrounding yourself with a supportive tribe creates a safe space where you can freely express your emotions and gather valuable insights.

Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. Your support group  will remind you of your strength, provide practical advice, and share their own triumphs and challenges. Together, you’ll navigate the complexities of co-parenting, custody agreements, and rebuilding your life post-divorce. The bonds you form will extend beyond divorce, becoming lifelong friendships rooted in shared experiences.

Embrace a New Beginning, Together.

As a divorced mom, you have already proven your strength and resilience. Through prioritizing self-care, building a support network, and embracing the art of letting go, you are well on your way to creating a fulfilling life after divorce. Remember, this journey is unique to you, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach.

Above all, be patient and compassionate with yourself. Healing takes time, and the process of rebuilding may have its ups and downs. Embrace self-discovery, try new things, and allow yourself to evolve. You have the power to shape your future and create a life filled with happiness, fulfillment, and love.

Remember, dear moms, you are not defined by your past, but rather by the incredible strength and resilience you possess. Trust in yourself, lean on your support network, and embrace the opportunities that lie ahead. Your journey after divorce is a chance for growth, empowerment, and ultimately, a life that is authentically yours. You are capable, you are deserving, and you have the power to thrive.